Monday, May 29, 2017

You know life is good when....

Joe calls and asks what's new and the only thing we can think of is that there's a robin made her nest in the hanging flower pot on the back porch.  Maybe not so good for the robin, as the cat has been perched under the flower for a few hours each day, trying to figure out how to get up there.  But we keep chasing the cat away.

Memorial Day.  I remember Pop's weekly letters including the Memorial Day parade in Pomfret, sometimes his marching.  Here's one from 1995:  "Memorial Day.  And in Pomfret, it's a bigger day than any other. Half the town marches, and the other half watches. There are Lions (the sponsors), Girl Scouts, Brownies, Boys Scouts, Little Leaguers, Fire Engines, Ambulances, Horses, Sheep, National Guard, an Air Guard fly-over, etc. And the inevitable recitation of the Gettysburg Address by Howard Baker, now in his '90's, and afterwards, many people will say, this may be Howard's last year... and we have been hearing that since we moved here."

Did anyone go to a Memorial Day parade?  Sheepishly,no, I admit, but next year I will do better. 

Joe and Lenor were on their way to the Eastern Shore for a week of vacation, baby-moon, they are calling it.  Leonor is well, albeit uncomfortable.  They had just gotten back from a wedding in Minnesota.  Margaret was here, for half the day anyway.  She had come up for her 10th college reunion (10 years?) and then spent Sunday here before heading back to Hartford to catch a plane.  Andrew stayed home with the pets, but mostly to do school work.  At this moment she should be flying the friendly skies.  Annie found those skies are often unfriendly, as she had one of the experiences with cancelled flights, layovers, and arguments before finally arriving in Paris a day late for the wedding of a Hamilton friend.  But she made it, and will spend a few days this week in the city of lights on vacation.  

We saw on Facebook that a)  Billy and Jen went camping with their children.  I wonder if I should rustle up a few Dickson camping photos, from the 1950s.  Their posts looked great, but they admitted to exhaustion.  Kids love camping.  b) that Jeffrey had some help in completing his raised bed gardening project. ​c) that Donald has a little tykes car that is the same as the one Joe got in 1982.  I wonder what other auto company could survive with the same style from 1982.

We do have news from here:  Mary did her usual record-setting times in a swim meet last weekend, especially as she had never swum the backstroke in a meet.  I went to a stone-wall workshop at Arrowhead, with a group of teenagers and a ranger who worked at the Weir Farm National Park, in Wilton Conn.  Another small world.  And, we've been gardening, getting the flower beds and vegetables in.  In fact, we've even had some asparagus, our first year from the garden.  As soon as I finish this, I'm heading out to put the rest of veggies in the ground.

But before that, we can also report that David and Paul have put their flower beds in order, with a new dagwood tree and their own hanging baskets gracing their porch.  And Johnny reports progress in his recovery from surgery on his neck.

Reading recommendations: Underground Railroad (although I think I'm the last one on the planet to have read that) and Man of Good Hope, which Mary was riveted to for a couple of weeks.  Film recommendation - Finding Oscar, which featured a few people who I knew in Mexico.  And finally, how many of you have done this: order a movie from Netflix that you've already seen?  Our Kind of Traitor, we watched with Margaret last night, but could only vaguely remember.  Embarrassing.

With that, out to the garden.  Love from up here.  



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Sunday, May 14, 2017

Happy Mothers' Day

Happy Birthday to Sean, happy birthday to Elliot, and Happy Mothers' Day to all the mothers.  In honor of this big day, there was a wonderful New York Times article about the life of mothers before they became mothers, prompted by a photo.  So, the photos for this letter are of Georganna and Loretta, before they became wives and mothers.  It doesn't end there.  Last night, we went to an intellectual movie of sorts, Snatched, with Amy Shumer and Goldie Hawn where a photo of the mother before she became a mother featured prominently.  A very funny movie, at least the first part which sent me into an asthma attack I was laughing so hard. Happy Mothers Day, again.

How did you spend your mothers day?  We went to brunch, to the nursery, to the garden, to the bed for a nap, and to our easy chairs for reading and for telephone calls.  Tonight, steak on the grill and chocolate ice cream.  Perfect.

Last weekend, I went down to Lawrenceville for my 45th high school reunion.  I remember going to my first reunion, but not since then.  So, it was a little strange to see people I had not seen since 1972.  There was one guy who not only went to Lawrenceville but also Drake Road Elementary in Cincinnati.  There were a few who had gone to Princeton, and who I had seen in the intervening years as well.  Other impressions?  People were for the most part in good health, and keeping fit. I think it was seeing David at his 50th reunion at Darrow last year that inspired me to return.

I stayed with Peter and Janet and had a chance to catch up with them as Peter related his recent court case, Sean's first trial, and all the books Johanna gets as part of her job publicizing books.  Johanna was there as well, and you'll have to ask her about the choice e-mails she's been getting related to Bill O'Reilly, an author her company publishes.  Janet and Peter went out to a McCarter gala that featured Wynton Marsalis.  Very special.

David and Paula spent a couple of days in New York City this week, where David had meetings, but more importantly, they went to see Hello Dolly with Bette Midler.  Fun.  Not so much fun was the news from Florida where Johnny had surgery on his neck to clear an artery.  A successful surgery but an uncomfortable recovery.  He says the incision went from his ear to his collar bone.  

More congratulations are in order for Claire who graduated last weekend from Hope College.  She won an award for music performance.  Andrew, Lur and Daniel went out for the weekend, and it took two cars to haul her stuff home.  Andrew is still struggling with his back issues.

More news - Joe went to Switzerland last week for work, and Leonor went to Canada, I think.  They have started childbirth classes.  We spoke with Annie after her week in San Francisco, and she sounded tired.  Last weekend Margaret and Andrew joined Jeff and Melodie for a tour of wine country in Virginia.

A quiet few weeks for us, staying home and catching up.  I'm taking two classes through the life long learning institute on Shakespeare tragedies and fly fishing.  Mary did double duty teaching swimming two nights a week in April, and she has been spending time with her Aunt Mary who is recovering from a couple of falls.

It looks like spring and maybe even summer may be returning this week.  I've had to mow the lawn a few times, and we're working on the flower beds and vegetable garden.  Ahh summer.

Hope you all are well and enjoying the season and the day.  Love from up here.




Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Spring break

Most people (of a certain age) go south for their spring school break.  For Mary's spring break, we followed Horace Greeley's advice and went west.  All the way to Michigan, through Rochester and Cleveland, and back home via Stratford, Ontario.  There were many highlights, but top among them was seeing you all - David and Paula, Annie, Andrew Lur and Claire.  More later.

First, though, we begin our spring letter with Easter, which we hosted here with Joe and Leonor, Margaret and Andrew and Annie joining us for the long weekend.  We were pleased that Lenor's mother, Patricia, was able to see this neck of the woods, as she had come over from Portugal for a two-week visit that coincided with Easter.  It was the first time we overflowed, but we figured out sleeping arrangements with Joe drawing the short straw and getting the couch.  The experience caused us to bring in a local architect to figure out how to finish the basement.

Anyway, back to the weekend, with first arrivals coming Thursday.  Margaret called to say that D had been attacked by dogs at their park and as a result of his wounds they were unlikely to be able to come.  When they woke on Friday, the dog was normal despite the wounds around his neck and leg, that included some plastic tube to drain the yucky stuff (medical terminology).  So they made it up.   It was another 36 hours in the Berkshires with trips to the outlets, to our favorite wine and food store, a special lecture at the library (featuring me expounding on the old mills in the county,) Easter service, and our latest tradition, dinner at the Red Lion Inn.  

With our house emptied out, we welcomed Maura and her 7-year-old daughter Elsie the following day.  It had been a while since we had seen them and Elsie had grown up.  One of her favorite things is writing.  She left little notes around the house, for Joe and Leonor with names for boys, and other things.  Cute.  Elsie also helped plant our first crop - potatoes.  We set out on our journey the following day, but they stayed in Pittsfield a few more days, taking care of the kitty, and then performing a heroic service that saved one day of our trip.

Anyway, on to Rochester and David and Paula's lovely village home, that looks even lovelier in the spring.  What a great town.  I keep saying it looks like a movie set.  Besides heading to our favorite ice cream place (only once - will power), we sampled local cuisine, including a nice Mediterranean place, and went for a walk around the canal which only partially balanced the ice cream.  We then weathered a day of rain to take in one of the Finger Lakes, going through Geneva and seeing their colleges and then touring some of the local wineries.  

Our next destination was Holland Michigan but to get there you have to drive through Cleveland.  So we stopped to see Annie for lunch, and she showed us around the GE lighting campus, with buildings from the early 1900s.  Annie was getting ready to head off for her own spring break, to Philadelphia and San Francisco.  A wedding and work.

We made it to Hope College in time for a concert where Claire conducted the wind ensemble.  Wow.  She was great, and playing the oboe, she gets to sit right up front.  We stayed at the campus hotel with Andrew and Lur, who showed us around the area the following day.  This part of Michigan has not lost its manufacturing base.  Nor its prosperity.  Andrew is still struggling with pain from his back surgery, unfortunately.

Claire had one last concert, her final one at Hope.  We are lucky to take in a number of classical performances here with Tanglewood close by, but none have moved me as much as the Symphony No 4, of David Maslanka that the ensemble interpreted.  Check it out on YouTube with the US Navy Band: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A2xcMoQ6ML4.  It's 30 minutes long, but worth it if you can make it to the end!  Needless to say, Claire was magnificent and has a wonderful group of friends.

Now here comes the part where Maura saved one leg of our trip.  We had decided to stop in Stratford Ontario on the way home, just a short way off the quickest route home.  Having worked at the Embassy when the passport requirement for cross-border travel came into effect, you'd think that I'd know or at least remember that we needed passports.  Nope, we left them home.  Anyway, Maura found them and had them delivered to the Hope College Hotel so we were able to cross the border with ease.  And get a view of Niagara Falls along the way!  

Now we're home, and the house is quiet.  We have some work to do in losing the many pounds we collected along the way, but I have to say they were worth it.

Other news:  Peter and Johnny had birthdays, Joe is on his way to Switzerland for work for the rest of this week, and Annie is enjoying her final leadership retreat in San Francisco this week.

Baseball has started, and we have lots of seedlings ready to get in the ground.  Spring is here.  

Love from up here. 

Friday, April 14, 2017

A few notes from the New Jersey contingent.

- I just finished a grueling two week trial representing a citizens' group opposing a proposal by JCP&L to construct a monstrously stupid huge transmission line through portions of Monmouth County that included the town where Janet's parents used to live. We were married in the back yard of their house and Johanna and Sean were baptized by Uncle Bob in the Reformed Church in Middletown. It's not over yet but it looks as if we have killed it. It's nice to be able to make a real difference.

- Doing a trial like this is all-consuming. You more or less leave the world as you know it and live in the trial. I got by on about three hours of sleep a night, getting ready for the next day after each day's twists, turns and surprises.

- I said to one of the other lawyers that I enjoyed a Trump-free experience for those two weeks. It was nice!

- Johanna is working with some interesting authors at Henry Holt. I am getting lots of free books – galley proofs as well as final prints. This week's catch is a book about books. How could I resist?

- Sean's first trial keeps getting pushed back. I can't wait.

- It's also been a tense time. One of Janet's cousins is now in hospice and David and Andrew had surgeries.

- Want to hear some utility jokes? A chemist, a biologist and an electrical engineer were on death row waiting to go in the electric chair. The chemist was brought forward first. "Do you have anything you want to say?" asked the executioner, strapping him in. "No," replied the chemist. The executioner flicked the switch and nothing happened. Under this particular State's law, if an execution attempt fails, the prisoner is to be released, so the chemist was released. Then the biologist was brought forward. "Do you have anything you want to say?" "No, just get on with it." The executioner flicked the switch, and again nothing happened, so the biologist was released. Then the electrical engineer was brought forward. "Do you have anything you want to say?" asked the executioner. "Yes," replied the engineer. "If you swap the red and the blue wires over, you might make this thing work."

- Q. Why do fluorescent lights hum?
A. Because they can't remember the words.

You get the drift.


Tuesday, April 4, 2017

April is the cruelest month...NOT

Which photo to choose to go with this letter?  It's the hardest part of this letter, since so much has happened since the last letter, including travel to see so many of you and as always lots of photos on my biggest rival, Facebook.  

We arrived home last night after a weekend in Washington anchored around a baby shower for Leonor and Joe.  Annie had flown in from Cleveland to join Margaret and Andrew for the happy occasion.  The highlight of the shower?  All the "onesie" shirts that some very creative folks drew on for the new baby.  Leonor and Joe are excitedly preparing, reconfiguring their house and stocking up for the arrival of what they are now calling cutie patootie.

The weekend was the end of a tour through the Rocehester-Cleveland-Dundee route with lots to report on there.  

It was a planes, trains and automobiles trip, along with buses.  We spent a night at the Fairport yellow inn, which David and Paula continue to enjoy, taking full advantage of the close walking distances to the village.  One nearby shop has the best home-made ice cream I've tasted.  I recommend the butterscotch ripple, by David swears by the back cherry.  Fun, but a little dangerous.

We drove to Annie's from Rochester, and she also has a great living situation, the ground floor of a house in trendy Tremont, or maybe it's transitional Tremont.  Either way, lots to do in the neighborhood.  We checked out a market in Ohio City (yes there is one) and had lunch with Mary's cousin, Joanne and her husband Scott, who live in Cleveland.  Did I mention an evening with LeBron?  Or should I say John Wall, as the Wizards schooled the Cavs.  Exciting, either way.

Mary headed back to Pittsfield, for school, leaving John to wind his way to Chicago, trying the Megabus, for probably the last time.  At least I can say I did it.  It might work for 3-4 hours, a little cramped for 7 hours.  The price was right.  I love how I save money but undergo unnecessary hardship. 

After a few hours in Chicago at the Field Museum, I hopped on the double-decker train out to Elgin where Andrew picked me up in the stretch van.  The next few days, we spent a lot of time chatting, in between dog walks, hospital visits, and a wonderful evening with Bill and Jen and Miles, Auden, and Elliot.  Unfortunately, Jen was on her first day of a cast, having broken her foot the day before.  They have a full plate as they have started a new business.

Other medical updates were also part and parcel of the past few weeks.  When we arrived in Fairport, David's neighbors walked by and said to him "Welcome home."  David clarified that they hadn't traveled any further than the local hospital to check out a heart issue.  Within ten days, with a few tests, he had a stent implanted to help with a blockage.  Good news.

Yesterday, Andrew had his back surgery which we hope will put behind him the last few months of pain caused by herniated discs.  It was not enough to prevent him and Lur from heading to Hope College to see Claire in her final recital over the weekend.  Anyway, wishing him a speedy recovery.

And, not on the same level, we are still dealing with some lingering intestinal issues (euphemism for diarrhea) from India.  

The drive home included much evidence of the changing seasons.  Grass was greener, red buds appearing on the trees, no gloves and coats....... until we pulled in the driveway, and saw snow everywhere, ice on the lake, etc.  Still, we are optimistic about the next few weeks.  On our list this week is to start seedlings indoors.  Eager

Hope everyone is enjoying the warmth.  Love from up here.


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Saturday, March 11, 2017

Travelogue, the sequel

We're home.  I seem to recall that the weekly letter after Pop and Grandma's long trips always began with "It's good to be home" and recounting about going through the mail and unpacking and laundry.  Some things pass on to the next generation.  One interesting note - 30 days of mail and one hand-written note.  The rest were appeals for money, flyers and bills.  

Anyway, we are glad to be home and adjusting to our normal, sedate lives, happy to have bland food and trying to sleep through the night.  We each wake up three times a night, wide awake, and read and force ourselves to go back to sleep.  Hint: read a boring book.  My choice: The Confidence Man, by Melville.  Why, you ask?  Because Philip Roth cited that book as the one best to understand our President.  After 100 or so pages, not sure I've seen what Roth sees, but it does help me go back to sleep.

The second part of our trip was given over to sightseeing, trying to make sense of India on our own, albeit with guides and driver, with various gradations of English abilities.  We went to the places on the normal tourism route, and were awed by the Taj Mahal and the Golden Temple in Amritsar, as well as a place not to far from the Taj, called Fatepuhr Sikri, where a King married a Moslem, a Christian and a Hindu wives and built a palace to accommodate all three religions, but abandoned it only a short while later due to water shortages.  

After that, the palaces and forts seemed to kind of blend together,  Spectacular, complex architecture all of them, stunning views, with grisly histories for the most part, dating back thousands of years in some cases.  What a culture, and almost impenetrable to a first time visitor.  

We looked for opportunities to do things off the beaten path and those proved to be eye-opening adventures - a bike ride through a bird sanctuary with a young, enthusiastic guide; a walk through an old, Moslem neighborhood at Friday prayers with a young volunteer for a project called the Hope Project; a visit to the changing of the guard at the India-Pakistan border, where we witnessed a full-throated nationalism on display; a peek behind the scenes at the organization behind feeding 25,000 people a day for free at the Golden Temple.  Among others.

We had our low moments, and they mostly had to do with illness - of the stomach and cold variety.  And we could regale you with our attempts to maneuver walking down and across streets, avoiding the rickshaws, and taxis and trucks and buses and carts and Lexuses and motorcycles and camels.  But, we've had a chance to download with a few people so we can spare everyone the in-person "when-we" stories.  Summed up: we're glad we went, really glad, but it's hard to see us jumping in line to go back, even though the school is a pretty big draw.  Not even sure how to recommend to other people.  

We came back to warm weather, but the bite of 7 degrees this morning when I went out to get the paper, shows we're not out of winter yet. David  made it through a high-wind power outage, enough to host Matthew and Tina who came over to get some warmth.  David also talked about a Shaker woodworking workshop he attended.  Joe and Leonor have been busy with house renovations getting ready for the big arrival; Margaret is trying to navigate the rumors of budgets for the down-sized State Department, and Annie's work has finally picked up.  We have travel ahead plans, on coming weekends, to Arizona for baseball, to Cleveland for basketball, and down to DC for a baby shower.

Next letter, more news from you all.  Love from up here.

Here's a shot from the border ceremony.  Louder than a soccer match. and certainly ore colorful.


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Sunday, February 19, 2017

Travelogue



Where to begin?  Perhaps with our host Sam Singh who has taken such good care of us and shown us so many things in India we forget what happened the day before. 


He grew up in the house where we are staying, the descendent of a local prince. He went to the U.K. To study engineering and then on to the US with a job as a textile engineer for DuPont.  He worked there for 40 years, and I think I can remember him saying he moved 29 times


When he retired he decided to return to his home town and he started a school for girls in 2000. He believed you educate a girl, you educate a family. With 40 girls the first year, there are now 1100 girls with side projects like textile factory for their mothers, milk cooperatives, latrines, solar electricity, all for families who send their girls to the school. 


So he's taken us to each of these projects, after we spend the day teaching English.  We've gone to the monkey temple and a temple commemorating Lord Krishna's marriage. We've driven the city streets and back roads, checked out sugar cane production and cow patties. In this picture, we are on a sunset cruise on the Ganges. 


You may ask why?  Not really sure, other than he's genuinely touched people come all the way from the US to work with the girls. He's a great promoter of his dream and yesterday brought in a big donation from an Indian businessman. Today we participated in a fund-raising half marathon race (we walked). 


Teaching is not as easy as we thought even though it's a lot more gentle than fixing up schools. The girls are happy and enthusiastic. Very rewarding, but it's kind of hard to pop in and make a difference. Not sure it matters though since one of his primary goals is not just remove the girls from a difficult environment and let them enjoy themselves and dream of possibilities. 


Food is plentiful but very different. Living conditions are very comfortable but we wake up each morning to loud Hindi music blaring from the temple next door. 


We will be here until Thursday morning when we start the site-seeing portion of the trip. 


We hope you all are well. We hear we missed much snow in Pittsfield but we've managed to keep up with the man who everyone is laughing at here. If only it were funny.  So sad. 


So love from over here.